While true, sometimes people just want to fit in. Make sure she knows how traumatic that was for you. It was lovely that the mate called you and said what he did. I honestly don't know if your marriage can survive this. Im extremely sorry this happened to you OP. You two will need some couples counselling after this incident, and some of what you will do in the future will be decided by if you can overcome a natural feeling of anger and resentment that you feel. Whats the point in being in relationship, in a marriage if you can't have ALL of trust, loyalty, and respect. I hope you are able to get marriage counseling and find a way through this wether it ends with you together or not. How would she feel, how would she react, etc. I agree with this comment the most. Thats so tough. I also really dont like how shes the one who initiates/etc yet was making fun of it?? Hubby is under the bus & she's driving over him again & again unnecessarily! OP, be worried that you're married to someone willing to lie about how they feel about you to have a better image for their friend group. If yes then walk and bear the burdens of the breakup, but if you think you together are worth saving, then do something to sort out the issues and move beyond it. At the very least, you need couple's counseling because it seems she has two very different worlds built up in her head when she talks with you versus her friends. If she had doubled down and defended herself and her friends, then that would be a break up situation imo. And if they give you a hard time, then fuck em! Remember also that it is okay to feel uncomfortable - instead of fighting these feelings, allow them to just pass through you. Standard Group Plc HQ Office, The Standard Group Center,Mombasa Road. Isn't this basically reverse sexism? Take a few days away from everything. Dude, I am so sorry. So what you should do? personally id be filing for divorce right away, being outed alone can be dangerous let alone your own partner then further breaking your trust by cracking jokes about your sexuality. Cuz while I get what youre saying, what OPs wife said was beyond just a little oopsie. My mom wasnt even home, I had forgotten she was on vacation. All the sudden I didnt know my wife. It's mainly drunk talk and a bit of peer pressure getting to your wife and she clearly regrets it We all make mistakes sometimes but this is how you grow as a couple! Any words of wisdom for the talk tomorrow? You feel emasculated about something that's a part of you because you hide it Weirdly plenty of women like men who like men too. The thing that's most revolting is that she'd hang you out to dry just to agree with her mates. If she does it again then it's a bigger issue but i'm sure this will be a big learning moment for her and you will both be in a better place for it. If I was you I would demand you get into couples therapy, and make absolutely clear that the trust you had in her is gone and it is going to take time for that trust to be rebuilt. Therefore I would talk to her about her views on it and, if necessary, go to couples therapy on this. She blamed drinking for outing you in the beginning and now shes blaming it again in this situation. That's awful. You dont need to have the talk tomorrow. Everyone doesnt wAnt an asshole who She needs to understand that at least. It's tough because that level of betrayal is seriously enraging, but, do you throw away a good thing? I will always defend my guy. People won't forget about it. They will be lapping up the drama and pushing to be in the loop, believe me. Truly when you come to the realisation your partner has such a low view , I sympathise a lot with you dude. My parents stayed together for my sister and I and I honestly wish they would have split a long time ago. Forgive them anyway. The real question on my mind is why is she friends with people who belittle you for your sexuality? Plus she essentially participated or at the least validated, them ridiculing his sexuality. Oh theyre judgmental so I wanted to fit in why do you wanna fit in with these people who dont respect the person you love most? Personal details should remain private. we're both 28. One friend asked her if she considered it and she said yes but ultimately she chose to stay with me because I made her happy and treated her better. About number 2, she's lying and trying to back pedal. She pulled her friends into your marriage and made you the butt of a running joke. This seems to be an unpopular opinion, but I kind of agree with you. The fact she cares more about her homophobic friends opinions of her than her relationship with her partner says a lot. No partner with a shred of empathy or decency would value the opinions of their friends over their partner's wellbeing. But at least this one has some panache. That's so fucked man. Divorce is an option if you cant get past this but it deserves an effort. Do NOT let her tell you your feelings are wrong. I can give you the exact number of people's secrets I have revealed while drunk Is fucking zero. But try couples counseling and go from there. You have a couple of children and a good life up until now. Best to you. Right? Repeat offenders shouldnt get second chances and neither should first time ones. Do not make them feel you're different because you're not! They were talking about ex-boyfriends and how another mutual friend of them cheated on her husband with an ex-boyfriend because he was better in bed. For a moment I felt ashamed. I will admit i dont tell my friends everything either, but if it comes up i wont join in and make fun of people who get made fun of for doing what i am into. It's so important when you have a union of two souls to do everything you can to make sure that your love stays connected and flourishes. But Id advise against staying with someone like that at all. German Young Boy Seduce Big Tit Step-Mom to Lost Virgin 16:20. I bet you can still hold your head high with them. I understand you were angry and not thinking straight, but that is besides the point. The slider to the patio from the kitchen is open. So I would lean towards suggesting forgiving her and working on this. Your wife betrayed your trust by sharing private details about your sexual preferences with other people. How I interpret she feels: she let slip in a drunken night that youre bi, she enjoys your sex life and when her friends made you the butt of the joke and were being judgmental about it, she felt ashamed, and in true weak fashion chose to join in vs stand up for you and herself. Agreed! I have also been outed in a similar way. I didn't enforce it, I didn't like it and it made me feel similarly to you. She not only outed him, but this obviously wasn't the first time they've discussed this. Im bi and from a close knit, homophobic religious family. We were having drinks and girl talk, about sex, etc.. well he didnt like a few things he heard and got upset. Dont just jump straight to divorce. You are both going to be have to go to couples therapy and individual therapy sessions. No, don't buy it. I'm not sure how your marriage survives without professional help. He and I werent real close, but wed hang out here and there and always enjoyed one anothers company at get togethers and stuff. I could not imagine this type of betrayal and I hope you can find peace. So I became kind of a joke and was constantly approached by family and friends, which didnt contributed at all for my stress level. Well 1. That was extra stupid. But I bet, she has told other people many years ago about it. How this going to help him after he become joke to everyone he know !!!! We say things to fit in, to belong, to make people laugh, to shock people and to make ourselves seem more impressive or likeable and so on - we dont always say things just because we mean the words that come out of our mouths. Many of your friends and family pick up on this anyway. People knowing that hes bi will damage his reputation? Let her know how betrayed you feel. First let me say your SO is the fucking worst in my humble opinion. However you don't have to forgive and forget either; life isn't black and white. They don't have her best interest at heart and they will just as quickly sow seeds of doubt to her evidently impressionable mind. Also sound out the wives who weren't judgemental and ask their opinions. Then one girl left and all of a sudden the other girl is giving pointers! Honestly, I don't know if I'd be able to get past never being able to trust her with personal stuff again. Made her feel embarrassed and she knows that she fucked up. Whats going to happen if your kids turn out to be not straight or not Cis? Ugh I'm angry for you OP, but I agree with the other posters. Get used to me being stupid". Best of luck. And why do you feed their judgement by throwing your husband to the wolves over this? I was in a conversation with two other girls about anal sex. This is tough, because you're obviously going through it and I'm sorry you are hurt, very truly. My fears were confirmed she'd been talking to him for a good while. I have no advice but as a fellow bi, my condolences. Before my wife was with me she dated a man named Tom. Must feel betrayed and really hurt. And if it was an accident, why did she give them details about what kinks you have? Dude that story is messed up. How horrible she is, violating you, your sex life, envisioning other people. Wow dude, that sucks and I feel bad for you. This is what I found out: She let my sexuality slip two years ago at a bachelorette party to her friends when she was completely shit faced and didnt remember till one of the girls made a joke about it and she freaked out and made them swear to never tell anyone she told them cause she knew how upset Id be. If shes serious about your marriage shell reassess her friends group too. Wouldnt your wifes friend be able to identify you anyway from the story? She continued to ignore my boundary. If you can't let bygones go after that then take the divorce, but be the better person and give your marriage a chance. Ugh. This wasn't the first time - no one but him was shocked and all the friends knew it was safe to joke about. That is a messy situation. Id also like to see those fun-o-phobes pack their bags and get out of your wifes life. Wow dude. See how it flushes out. Go see a divorce attorney. It shouldnt be that way forever, and hopefully it isnt one day. The bottom pine is you're supposed to be able to confide in her about these things and she's mishandled your trust. That's where your power is. Hope you can solve things and come to a good end for you. Well he's not open about being bi so I'm pretty sure he does care about it. There is now a before and an after in your marriage. Your partner in crime fucked up. As in, never talk to them again. Peter Bridgens, 72, from Birmingham, started his tattoo suit at the age of 36 and took him My late uncle had to watch his wife leave him on his sick bed because she couldn't bring herself so be seen that way, talking about "a whole me tending to a sick man, me I can't oh let his family do it ".. Yeah, I have a hunch that her apology is going to include counseling and new friends. Youd be second guessing everything they tell you from here in. This right here. He said if i wanna get together for a drink or whatever to let him know. What girl no own ya sh*t. I would be scared to death to share those acts with her again. Are you being a bit harsh? I only started being a little open about it when I moved 3 states away from them and was dating a supportive partner. I'm not defending her actions. It just seems like shes ashamed of it an projecting. My ex used to talk about our sex life to her friends all the time and though I thought things were good - I never felt comfortable with this arrangement. The friends that she's now claiming are judgemental need to be cut off. Decide what you need to keep the relation ship going. I turned to my wife with a raised eyebrow and announced I guess you didnt have me pegged to be a man that would stand up for himself! And I majestically brushed my cape back and walked right out of the house. Thats not someone you stay in a marriage with. When they reacted a little judgy then she may have backpeddled a bit. Whoa. So here is a truth I don't think many men/women/etc get: SO's talk. Because I think going three-for-three on instances of convenient bullshit is, well, bullshit. Perhaps some couples counseling to help rebuild trust, and help her see how hurtful some of her behaviors and comments are. Just here to let you know bi guys are preferable. It doesn't matter if her friends judge her for things - she needs to stand up for you as her husband. But something you might ask her about. No matter how much she tells you she really enjoys it, there will now always be that voice in your head that tells you she really doesn't. You poor man, I so want to give you a hug. I turned to my wife with a raised eyebrow and announced I guess you didnt have me pegged to be a man that would stand up for himself! And I majestically brushed my cape back and walked right out of the house. Are all your future conversations and issues also going to be relayed through said friends? Youre not overreacting. It was a low blow, but fuck that shit. Women talk shit to each other just as much as men do. This is divorce worthy. Wasnt even going to bring it up to her or get upset she didnt tell me. As a queer person, I would never feel comfortable being with someone biphobic or who is okay being friends with people who are biphobic. Why would she tell them you enjoy costumes? Humanity is an ocean. Your wife was actively talking shit about you behind your back when she thought you werent listening. She should genuinely make amends for it and admit to your so called friends her hand in the situation! Also she devolved some abusivo behaviour which, according to her was due to the lack of sex. At 31 years old! All you heard was a snippet of the conversation that you could loud and clear despite being in another room. I started putting a voice recorder in my wife's car after u caught her cheating. Honestly man if I found out my partner thinks so little of me because of my sexuality, especially after what you guys do in the bedroom, I would honestly hand her divorce papers and let her know that she can enjoy her friends company more since she's not with the bi guy anymore and she can go be with Tom like she wanted. Me: Oh, does (friend) work with Tom? I said this as sarcastically as possible. This opens up two main issues, and a third tangential one, as follows: In the first scenario: She crossed a boundary and (un)consiously violated your trust. That's just me, though. Oh my god I fucking lost it at your comment. If so, I think you should try. Who cares. P.O Box 30080-00100,Nairobi, Kenya. I doubt your own friends would even care, they might tease you a little but thats what friends do. Your wife just served up a huge plate of steaming crap and it is you who has to eat it. Wife: (my name) I dunno what your heard but its not what, Me: (wifes name) I know exactly what I heard.. This friend is in a serious relationship," he kicked off the contenscious post. But it does happen and people can surprise you. I agree though it does sound like she started the mocking of his sexuality. Very much agree with this person right here. But 2 years later she is still talking about your most sacred aspect of your personal life, by filling in her friends on the most private part of your life. If you want to save your marriage and restore trust some sort of therapy is probably necessary. We have an exciting and active sex life. Kids do the joking crap and make fun of boyfriends, not decent women. People aren't accepting where I live either. Most importantly, YOU DID NOT GIVE CONSENT to the things she is talking about!! If its been a long time she maybe used to be that way but not anymore and still knows how to do the diggs they like. Telephone number: 0203222111, 0719012111 I know that your * secret life * is very personal to you, but not many people will be concerned or even bothered about your sexuality. Divorce. Tell her to flip the genders and make it you and the "boys" doing "locker room talk" about her and all the things she likes in the bedroom. I don't think this information should have been said. What she did is disrespectful to you as her husband, to herself as your wife, disrespectful AF to your kids (because they will absolutely hear this rumorone day if you live in a small town) and in my opinion this is a divorce threshold. They all laugh. She violated your trust in one of the worst possible ways and there really isn't any way to walk it back, The thing that sucks the most is that now that there was a blowupthose judgmental friends who she told about your sexualitywill be running their mouths to all their other friends and coworkers and more and more people will be told something you never wanted shared. The biggest thing in my mind is, she shouldn't be saying things to appease her friends because she thinks they'll judge her for being with you. My 2 cents is not worth much, but why did she not feel the need to tell you when she realized she let it slip from the drunken night? So (and this is where your perception of the relationship comes in) you have to determine whether she was going with the flow of the conversation or whether she does actually have an issue with that. She is reacting the right way to this, in that she's clearly upset and remoresful for her actions. You will never have that trust again. Imagine it was a really graphic conversation, about all her body parts or how she is bad at oral sex, and it included discussions of your ex-girlfiend for comparison. She was prepared to throw you under the bus and make you the butt of a joke just to impress her friends? Honestly the only advice I have is to go for that beer with your friend, he seems to be the only one in the situation treating you decently. Mom and boy 22:56. You poor man, I so want to give you a hug. This is the lesson: never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never -- in nothing, great or small, large or petty -- never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense. I am a closeted bi woman. How would she feel if she overheard this? Your wife is all kinds of an AH here. Based on the way she acts in private i would think you are right in your opinion. If you don't care about your partner enough to defend them when they aren't there, why the fuck are you even with them? Had a similar situation with my best friend. she needs to stand by you and say that shes proud of you and supports you. Theres people that will truly respect you and love you the right way. You know what Im talking about Im sure. You can't act if you don't know how you feel. You deserve so much better than this. I turned around and stormed off to our room. Seems like she might have played along a little too much to sound cool to her friends. We had a group of our friends over and as the night went on we all kind of busted out into little groups. You can't unhear it and if you don't bring it up, your resentment will grow and your self-esteem. After some investigation the the psychologist and clinic consensus was that my mind was f***ed up. Don't make any decisions until you have calmed down. Saying that it was simply too small. I think that you need a good week to try and think about how you feel, how you're going to be able to contain the gossip and how you move forward with the wife . Do you actually believe that she didn't have any agency? Let her know that if she wants to patch this up, its on her. You need to accept yourself for who you are. Especially the part where she acts like its a close call between you and Tom to her girlfriends. No. Just remember she was crying because she was caught. Try distancing yourselves from these particular friends / connections until self estern / acceptance issues are resolved. If you can't trust someone with your sexuality - you aren't going to trust them with anything else that matters to you, there will always be something keeping you from sharing your full self with them. Bruuh this is too much for me I'm 52 yrs old, veteran, communications workers close to company retirement, whatever you do just enjoy life. Couples therapy is a must, but it is on your wife to earn your trust back. When we had problems of a sexual nature it made me feel worse that her friends who would constantly gossip amongst each other knew. I packed a bag, kissed the kids goodbye, and told them I was going to grandmas house to help her with something. Maybe things that we say passively just to get our friends to laugh and joke, but arent meant to be taken seriously. I would just ask why her friends opinions matter more than yous twos intimacy. 2.) And had kids with you. This is probably something couples therapy can help you navigate. As for the rest of it, definitely couples counseling. Don't be embarrassed about any of that stuff, everyone knows now so just own it. I would DIE if my husband mocked me being bi like your wife did. also drunk talk often means honest thoughts of a person. She also needs to put her friends in their place or look for better friends. Your wife is a cowered. Would she have thrown Tom under the bus like that to entertain her friends ignorance? Or will she stand by him, tell her friends she is the one who was lying because she was afraid of their reactions, and own her shit? Not only that, but she didn't admit to him that she had done it when she sobered up. My life would have been infinitely better if my parents didnt do that shit. Shes outed you twice, once under influence and this time more than completely sober, then proceeded to loudly discuss your sex life in front of a judgemental group of biphobes who then proceeded to tell their SOs about it and are now probably telling anyone wholl listen about it. I totally dont get why she would lie and say he begged for the gay stuff if she was wanting it. Im not at all saying you were wrong to stay and listen and your feelings are VALID. You think youre slick enough to hide the resentment and anger but youre not. First, you did not overreact, this is a huge violation of your trust. It seems she reserves honesty for her friends. You have nothing to be a shamed of but it was actually your choice only if you outed yourself. You're married to the person who should MOST be on your side and she has completely betrayed you for a fucking laugh. Sounds like shes really sorry. She values her homophobic friends' opinions more than your feelings. Best of luck. It felt terrible. i would like to add a partner should never ever make you feel ashamed or embarrassed about your sexuality. I am not open about my sexuality. I told her I was uncomfortable with it. I wouldnt let her off the hook easily, but we all say and do some dumb stuff and I think she deserves a chance make it up to you and resolve the situation. Who actually believes these? If that isn't true, she should dump the friends because no one should have to feel like they have to validate themselves in a relationship to those they trust. I would never be able to fully be myself around my wife again after such an event, and to me that means there's just no way we can work anymore. Right now is the time for your wife to stand by you. You have to try and think past this and think about her and the relationship as a whole. Will take her out to nice places, and buy her stuff. Second, I am sorry you heard them given that I dont know exactly what it would take to rebuild trust from where you are currently. As Ive gotten older and talked/listened to more and more people, it definitely seems like most toxic masculinity stems from mens encounters with women they trusted, not other men. Judging from what is written it seems that shes as much into it as he is, she needs to be real about that. I'd also put the missus on a yellow card and ask her to be more honest about the Tom thing; the fact he treated her badly and you're the opposite must be a good factor in staying together. She broke your trust, plain and simple. Be open with her. Your wife probably didn't want to admit in front of her friends that she likes that you're into butt stuff and initiates most of the time. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. This doesnt excuse anything. Does it not show a serious weakness in character that she bull shitted like that? If you two have a solid relationship, you should be able to work through this. I'm conflicted because a lot of men talk about other women,wives,guys etc like that to seem tough and shit, but when a woman says it it makes it the end of the world? Wife and I have been married 7 years and its literally the marriage everyone wants. You heard the truth when she was talking to her friends, about your private life, without your knowledge. People are often unreasonable and self-centered. And also refused to allow anyone to talk about it. I couldn't stop laughing at the first sentence in your comment. Seriously? Dont just move on forget, learn from it. I thanked him. I told this to my then partner with all the trust in the world. She should have told you from the beginning that she let it slip and stood up for you to her friends. Honor every feeling, but don't become paralysed by them. I have never discussed my sexual relationship with my husband with them, and theyve never discussed their sex lives with their partners with me (because were all married or long term now, and thats just inappropriate. No one cares. But that's fucked You need to stand up for your person to your friends not play along. We must feel sadness and despair to know joy, as frustrating as that might seem. Good luck. Nothing really, it's all been said, nothing can change it. If you can't own up to what you're doing in the bedroom, you aren't mature enough to be doing it. Divorce her. Maybe. I'm sorry you're going through this but your wife is such a shit person man. Thank you for giving me my laugh for the day haha. And as a low blow it is, it's an easy way out for a quick laugh among her judgemental friends. First of all, you're right to cool down before making decision on anything. Here are some examples: I know you and I have different views on sexuality, but I love my husband and will not stand to hear him be talked about in this manner., My husband is not gay, please stop insinuating he is. subject change, Yeah, I dont think thats funny. (Or just not laughing and keeping a stone cold face until the others get uncomfortable), Thats actually not your business, lets talk about something else., I am uncomfortable talking about this, lets talk about something else., Your wife gave into the toxicity of her friends and that doesnt make her a better person for it even if she really doesnt think that way. She needs to know that what she did was hurtful and unacceptable, and you deserve an apology not only from her, but from her fucking idiot friends too. Let that sink in. Being a bi women in a straight committed relationship, I can connect with you in some sense because I do hear "you can't be bi, you're married to a man" or I had previous partners that were horribly insecure about my sexuality. We have good jobs that the pandemic didnt effect too much. hey i mean, im not married, live with my bf and have 2 cats and a dog. This is a huge betrayal and should not be minimised by either of you. NOBODY SHOULD TALK LIKE THAT ABOUT ANYONE. I think the problem here is not your wife not loving you or your sex life -- it sounds like she loves you very much and enjoys y'all's sex life. It's not cool she didn't. Not one woman was shocked or uncomfortable, just derogatory. Regardless, hilarious. She buys all kinds of outfits and toys without me even suggesting it! IN YOUR HOME. Which is obviously shit because she's willing to throw you to the wolves, but not admit her fun time with you. 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